You know how you would usually say something like "I am feeling... (anxious, calm, happy, sad, etc?) " Trade any emotion and or negative word for something positive. We will call this

" Expanding out horizons! " 

Lets try! Instead of saying

" I am feeling irritated. "

I am going to say " I am feeling grateful for this opportunity ."  

Now hear me out! I know what you are thinking!

" What the heck, right? "

I am going to say I am grateful, instead of I am irritated. Because I am going to use to feeling of irritation and shift that feeling of irritation, into an opportunity to be  grateful and or learn from.

Why???

Well, I am glad that you asked! 

If I am feeling irritated because of something someone is doing or saying. I am going to use this as " Expanding my horizons opportunity!" 

 I Would ask myself, Why am I letting someone else's and or words effect me in this way?

What they are doing is out of my control. Nor would I want to control others. All I control is my own self and my own thoughts, actions and words. So, if someone is spreading a rumor about me, I am going to let it go and not spare any of my energy feeding back into that negativity. I would then learn something about that person. ( they like to gossip and lie.) And I would use that situation as an opportunity to have my voice  and respectfully communicate to them, I do not have capacity for toxicity and or negativity in my life and simply move forward. So many positive things come from this, like a ripple in the cosmos. I now set boundaries, made more room for positive doors to open  and room to meet good  people.